On the other hand, if you are uncertain whether a divorce is necessary, then filing suit is premature. Initiating a divorce suit is expensive because experienced attorneys will request that you pay a retainer and at least a portion of that sum will not be refunded if you change your mind after the suit is filed. Hostility rises and communication diminishes with the filing of a divorce case and those factors usually make reconciliation more difficult. Therefore, if you have doubt about the course to pursue, you should encourage your spouse to participate in marital counseling and put forth every reasonable effort to save the marriage relationship before hiring a lawyer to file a divorce case.
Helpful AdviceOnce family, friends, or work associates learn that you are considering a divorce, you will be inundated with “helpful advice”. The problem, from your perspective, is one of how to sort the good advice from the bad advice. Your marriage relationship is one of two unique personalities (you and your spouse) joined in a unique physical, emotional and psychological relationship (the marriage) while dealing with the unique aspects of your financial situation and all of the unique relationships between yourselves, families, work associates, etc.. The bottom line is – your marriage and the difficulties that led to thoughts of divorce are unlike any other set of marriage or divorce circumstances. Your marriage is one of a kind and the issues related to your divorce are one of a kind.
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